The final thread

I want to leave you with two pieces of advice.

The first piece of advice is don’t wait until you’re ready. You’ll never be ready. It is never a good time. I don’t care how many times you face the demons, the next one is just as scary.

Secondly, go only as fast as you can. This is an evolutionary process, not a revolutionary process. Enjoy the process. Every time you face the truth, it’s another experience of joy. Stop and appreciate it, enjoy it. Every time you heal your fear through love, you feel a little lighter and freer. Stop and enjoy it.

Feel good about the progress you’re making rather than bad about how far you have to go yet. There’s a difference there. It’s kind of like, if you keep doing it daily, tenaciously, lovingly, truthfully, open-heartedly, then it happens. It just does. We can trust it. It’s kind of like when you walk by a mirror and you see yourself, you my see you need a haircut, my hair has really grown. You didn’t notice it, but it was happening all the time. Well occasionally, you walk by a mirror and you look at yourself and say, I really am walking closer to my path. I really am living more to who I thought I was and that is a most glorious feeling! That’s not too big of an adjective to describe it either.

I’m closing this thread with one last simple quote and although it specifically addresses women, I feel it applies to all humanity.  

When a woman tells the truth she is creating the possibility for more truth around her. 

– Adrienne Rich

Thank you for reading my blog. New topic coming soon.

Deathbed regrets

To live your life through programming and recycling the drama; and maybe if you’re really lucky, on your deathbed, you’ll wake-up. On your deathbed, you look at it and say, “Boy, if only I hadn’t let this person, or this career, or these obligations, or this disease, or this lifestyle, or you fill in the blank. If only I hadn’t let them rule my life.

This process that I’m talking about does take courage. It really does. It takes heroics in some cases. But the interesting thing is, is that you have courage. You have heroics in you. We all do. And ordinary people, when they’re faced with the big trial, the big challenges, the big losses, the big moral dilemmas, they find out what kind of courage they have. And it’s often through crisis and only through tragedy that we get to find that out. What I’m talking about is to realize that consciously, and drawing on it consciously. And, it does take that kind of courage. Do you know what else it takes? It takes suffering too.

The interesting thing about suffering is that it doesn’t hurt. It’s like God said in Romans 8:18, “For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.”  Sure life may include suffering, but knowing this, we can dance through it. That’s the interesting thing about suffering—when you really turn and look at it, suffering doesn’t hurt. It doesn’t even hurt.

I think great line by Herman Hesse, “…love your suffering. Do not resist it, do not flee from it. It is your aversion that hurts, nothing else.” And again, what the alternative to suffering? More drama, recycling, more screwing it up and fixing it, and more neurosis.

I think of another great line from Carl Jung--Neurosis is always a substitute for legitimate suffering. How’s that! That’s what they are. Legitimate suffering takes you somewhere. Suffering is pain with movement, pain with meaning and neurosis is a substitute for that. That’s why a lot of us are neurotic. But, it’s worth it.

I talk a lot about pain and suffering. I get a little tired of it myself, if you want to know the truth. And, what the other part of that is, is that there’s a lot of joy out there. You know, it can be a really great life.

When you’re moving in the direction of who you are, you realize that. You’re alive, you’re not tired, you’re not muddle-headed in the day. You don’t need a cup of coffee in the morning to wake up. In fact, you’re blown away by the amount of energy you have. You work is easier and you are blown away at how good at it you are. And, as you are unfolding yourself, you’re connecting with various parts of yourself; you’re blown away at who you are! You’re really great. What a wonderful revelation that is.

Why is it so terrifying?

When you look, you see connections. You see, I think one of the things we are doing right now is we are connecting the left and right brain. We are seeing that logic and science can only take us so far. We are reconnecting with the intuitive.

Another thing we’re doing is that we are making connects of what happened to us when we were three-years-old and how we’re acting now. That’s some people didn’t do before. We’re making connections of what we spray under our arm and the ozone layer in Antarctica. People never did this before.

We’re making connections between East and West. We could no longer look at each other to see the differences any more and so when we saw the connection, what happened? The walls came a tumbling down. And it happens in fits and sparks; but, it’s happening. And it’s exciting! It’s the responsibly that we all have.

We talk about facing the truth, and when we talk about healing fear with love, and we talk about looking at who we really are and moving step-by-step towards it; it’s exciting on one hand and on the other hand, it is terrifying. It seems like a big responsibility. We have known the feeling. We just want to go back to sleep again. It was easier then in some ways, but, we can’t. We can’t go back to sleep. And so, we face it.

I had a woman one time I was talking about this and she said, “I’m facing it. I’m facing it already, and to my left I see guillotine and to my right, I see a firing squad, and straight ahead, I see a noose.” You know what? I sympathize with that. But what’s the alternative? To stay stuck.